Sneak Peak of a Modern Ketubah
Attending a Jewish wedding involves a traditional custom which is the Ketubah or also known for being called as the Jewish marriage contract. Just like any other wedding, the Ketubah should also be signed by the married couples as part of the wedding rituals and should be in front of the witnesses and rabbi. In today’s time, couples who are interfaith, not considered to be traditionalists, not very religious and those who are members of the gay community uses the modern Ketubah but is still part of their wedding ceremonies.
The content of a Ketubah or Ketubot for plural term is the newly wed couple’s vows and promises including responsibilities for each other through a written version. A Ketubah is an artistically framed document that is basically seen on the walls of the couple’s home to serve as a reminder for both of them on what love is all about. Aside from that, a modern Ketubah can also serve as a pre-nuptial agreement. But for some people who experienced failed first marriages, they prefer having a pre-nuptial agreement because of the past experiences they had.
There are lots of ways in making ketubahs that you can experiment on but you can follow these various steps for you to have your own modern ketubah on your upcoming Jewish wedding:
First of all, you need to know your desired design, style, artwork and text for your Ketubah but make sure that it suits both you and your partner. Rabbis can also help you out on the creation of your Ketubah since they have been witnessing a lot of ketubah during weddings and this is not new to them at all. Another option for you is to just hire a mediator that will help you with the creation of your agreement. For you to understand the wants and needs of your partners, mediators can also assist and help you.
This agreement is also used to serve as a traditional reason to protect the welfare of the woman or wife and the future children of the couple. Ketubah also serves as a document that guarantees the financial support from the father when divorce is filed in the future and it also serves a way for the man not to ignore a woman.
Married couples will be more comfortable writing their vows in a Ketubah text. This marriage contract should be written from the heart. You need to write down everything because this is your way of showing your partner how you love him or her and that you will promise not to hurt the person and love him unconditionally and follow the rules of marriage.